Throughout life everyone will spend time being single. However, stigma and peer pressure can sometimes get in the way of enjoying singleness.  You could be made to feel like it’s better to be in a relationship and that you should be in one. It’s important not to give into this way of thinking.  Remember, everyone starts out as individuals not in relationships. Some people chose to be in a relationship, but some people prefer to be single. Others are single due to the circumstances they find themselves in, for example they could have been in a relationship but their partner left, or they moved to a different city. Whether you choose to be in a relationship or prefer not to be, what counts in learning to be confident in yourself, being the best you can be and making the most of the circumstances you find yourself in.

It is also better to be single than be in a damaging and unhealthy relationship. For more information about healthy relationships and unhealthy relationships see our page on Being in a relationship.

If you find yourself single, have chosen to be or you’re feeling the pressure not to be then here are some reminders of what’s great about being single and how you can make the most out of it:

• Learn how to be happy in your own skin. It is worthwhile learning how to love yourself before committing to love another person. After all how can you love them well when you don’t value yourself? Being single is a great opportunity to develop self confidence and a good sense of who you are as an individual. You don’t have to try and impress someone, or try to be someone you’re not. You can just be you!
• The world is your oyster- take advantage of it. Singles are freer to make decisions about what to do with their lives. They can go to college or university where ever they want, live where they want, or pursue careers or interests without having to worry about what someone else’s plans.
• Grow good friendships. Friends are great for sharing the highs and lows of life with. Being single you have more time and energy to spend with friends. You’ll also learn important skills such as loyalty, trust, patience and forgiveness that will stand you in good stead if you do choose to be in a relationship. Try to be good friends with both males and females, they can give you different perspectives on life. Plus friendship can be an ideal base from which something more can develop.

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